I heard this quote several years ago when I needed it. I’ve since repeated this to many of my female patients when I thought they needed it. Do you need to hear it today?
There may have been times in your marriage when you felt the need to speak up and voice your opinion. It was the right opinion. You spoke it courageously despite the knowledge that there may be consequences, and what were you told?
*You’re too much
*Keep your mouth shut
*Remember when you said... (your opinions used against you later)
*Who do you think you are?
*You think you’re so smart, don’t you?
When men have strong opinions, they’re told that they are powerful and confident. Oftentimes, when women have strong opinions, they’re told that they are bitches. Women are sometimes raised to be compliant, quiet, accommodating, and not “too smart”.
That’s just wrong. Despite what you may have learned or experienced, remember that you are always allowed to have an opinion. Just like everyone else, you’re allowed to share that opinion as long as it is respectfully expressed. If the man you’re with doesn’t like that you are a strong and smart women, then he is clearly not the man for you. Don’t dim your own light. Don’t doubt your own worth.
A STRONG MAN APPRECIATES A STRONG WOMAN. A WEAK MAN WILL SAY SHE HAS AN ATTITUDE.