This is our third blog in a series on technology and divorce. We previously covered text messages and social media. Today we are going to focus the phone itself. As technology becomes more ingrained in our lives, it is important that we are mindful of how it can positively and negatively impact our divorce. Our phones, it turns out, are always working in the background.
Your Phone Plan
Very often married couples and families use family plans that allow someone to gain access to the accounts in the plan. For example, on iPhones, parties can set up family sharing settings. This means that family members can opt in to allow other family members to be able to see their location in Friends and Messages. What is meant to be a convenient and safe tool, can become problematic when you separate in a divorce and don’t change your settings.
This means an ex-spouse can see where you are at any time. This can be problematic for a variety reasons and you should change your settings immediately to avoid any issues. In addition, it’s a good idea to update your account passwords. With Apple, if someone has your iCloud password, they can view activity on, and even make changes to, your phone, apps, email accounts and the account itself.
I don’t want this to sound too sinister or nefarious. But the reality is that divorce is hard on everyone and people make emotional decisions during the process. Things can get messy when the lure of logging into an ex-spouse’s phone account to see what they are doing is hanging around out there.