ARE THERE ANY BENEFITS TO POSTING YOUR DIVORCE ON SOCIAL MEDIA?

           Kendra Wilkinson-Baskett, former Playboy bunny and co-star of the reality TV shows, The Girls Next Store and Kendra on Top has just posted a sobbing Instagram post, claiming she’s “done all I can” in her marriage to athlete Hank Baskett, announcing their split.  This comes after several other similar melancholy video posts. Also trending is actors Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan-Tatum posing the announcement of their nine-year marriage on social media.  Although their announcement was courteous and generous toward each other, it begs the question: should you post details of your marital difficulties, separation or divorce on Facebook, Instagram, or the like?

            While your name may not be instantly recognizable to the public, it is a familiar one to your public and more importantly, to your children, parents and siblings who may not have been considered before making your marital challenges public domain.  The effects this may have not only on you, but on them is something to seriously think about.

            What you do in the public domain not only has potential consequences for you but also reflects upon those around you.  Additionally, the way you feel at the present moment is not necessarily how you may feel in a week, a month or a year.  You ability to co-parent with your STBX may be jeopardized by your need to seek support, revenge or tell your side of the story right now.

            If you are facing the inevitable challenges of sadness and anxiety as you make decisions about your divorce, you are well-advised to seek personal counseling, clergy  or vent to a trusted friend or family member.  Leave the social posts for good days and positive vibes.