In 2007, actor Alec Baldwin left a voicemail on his then 11-year old daughter Ireland’s voicemail calling her a “rude, thoughtless little pig” for missing a planned phone call. The voicemail was not only leaked to the press, but it was used as evidence against Baldwin in the custody case involving his daughter. A family law judge ordered Baldwin to have no contact with her after listening to the voicemail. Ten years later, Baldwin says it is still thrown in his face every day. That is his daily reminder of this critically important divorce rule -- Your Actions are Evidence.
This rule is triggered the day you get married. It stays relevant through divorce and, as shown in Baldwin’s case, well after the divorce is over. It means everything a person does, or doesn’t do, has the potential to become evidence in their legal divorce. This evidence can work to one’s benefit, or to their detriment. No one understands this better than Alec Baldwin, because this rule worked against him twice.
This incident is remembered for what Baldwin did, but it’s what Baldwin’s ex-wife, actor Kim Basinger, didn’t do that is just as important. She applied the ‘Actions are Evidence’ rule to her benefit. Basinger was likely furious after hearing this voicemail, but no retaliatory voicemail or communication surfaced of her attacking Baldwin. It surely would have been used as evidence against her in family law court if she had. Her inaction spoke volumes and kept the Judge’s focus on Baldwin’s behavior. From the outside looking in, Basinger seems to have understood that, in divorce, your actions are evidence.
This important rule is covered in detail in a Chapter 9, "The 7 Legal Rules for Divorce", in the The Empowered Woman’s Guide to Divorce.