The holiday season has officially started and you know what that means: long lines at Costco, school recitals, evening walks admiring holiday lights..with your ex and his new honey?
Would you spend part of the holidays as a family with your children, your wusband, the new woman in his life and her children? Hey, all the cool kids are doing it: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck spend all kinds of holidays and vacations together; Gwyneth Paltrow has brunch with her ex and her new fiancé; Demi Moore famously shared time with her ex, Bruce Willis and her then-husband, Ashton Kutcher and Bruce’s new wife. One happy family!
There are good reasons for doing this: your children have the opportunity to see their parents getting along and enjoying each other’s company.
There are good reasons for not doing this: your children have the opportunity to see their parents getting along and enjoying each other’s company which causes them to wonder why they can’t get back together and therefore causes more pain.
Of course, letting go of anger and animosity so that you can move forward in your own life is the best course of action while going through or post-divorce. Remembering why you once enjoyed your ex’s company without the stress that led to the divorce is a wonderful thing, especially for your children...if you and he are able to do that. Seeing him being affectionate with someone new may allow you to truly let go or it may devastate you.
There is no “right” answer to this situation, only the answer you have that’s right for you.
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